truth

        In this one book series I read a few years ago a boy altered his brain so that he didn't have the abitlity to lie. Not only could he not lie he had to tell the whole truth. He couldn't control it. I sometimes wish that we all had that brain alteration and we all had to be honest. I have a huge circle of friend I hang out with and we all try to act like we are all best friends and there is no drama. In reality theres more drama in my group than in a soap opera. The whole reason for the drama is the fact that NO ONE in honest. There are crushes that everyone knows about that everyone ignores. There's pain that people know about and everyone ignores. There are awkward break ups, and scandals, and hookups, and fights and everyone (including myself) ignores it. I feel like if people were just honest about all of it we could all function as friends better.
           Now don't get me wrong; in the right setting with the right dynamic we actually are the best friends ever. But that's the hardest part because to achieve that dynamic is like chess. For example "if we invite her to the party than he will come because he likes her but that means he'll bring them and they don't like me but I want her to go but he said that she said that we don't like whats her name and blah freaking blah." And when that happens and the perfect dynamics can't be achieved then people get hurt. People feel isolated, aliened, ignored, and disliked. And then by the end of what ever the hang out is half of the group posts on facebook how great the night was and half of the group sits in a car together venting about how hated they feel.
         Don't worry though this blog's purpose is not to make anyone feel bad or persuade people to treat their friends better. It's purpose is to emphasize the importance of honesty. If people were honest in my group of friends then yes things would change but people would know the truth and we could stop the "he said she said", and the guessing, and all the crap. We could stop ignoring the epic elephants in the room. We could learn to actually love and accept each other for who we are. If we could be honest like we should we would actually be that great loving circle of friends we pretend we are.