truth

        In this one book series I read a few years ago a boy altered his brain so that he didn't have the abitlity to lie. Not only could he not lie he had to tell the whole truth. He couldn't control it. I sometimes wish that we all had that brain alteration and we all had to be honest. I have a huge circle of friend I hang out with and we all try to act like we are all best friends and there is no drama. In reality theres more drama in my group than in a soap opera. The whole reason for the drama is the fact that NO ONE in honest. There are crushes that everyone knows about that everyone ignores. There's pain that people know about and everyone ignores. There are awkward break ups, and scandals, and hookups, and fights and everyone (including myself) ignores it. I feel like if people were just honest about all of it we could all function as friends better.
           Now don't get me wrong; in the right setting with the right dynamic we actually are the best friends ever. But that's the hardest part because to achieve that dynamic is like chess. For example "if we invite her to the party than he will come because he likes her but that means he'll bring them and they don't like me but I want her to go but he said that she said that we don't like whats her name and blah freaking blah." And when that happens and the perfect dynamics can't be achieved then people get hurt. People feel isolated, aliened, ignored, and disliked. And then by the end of what ever the hang out is half of the group posts on facebook how great the night was and half of the group sits in a car together venting about how hated they feel.
         Don't worry though this blog's purpose is not to make anyone feel bad or persuade people to treat their friends better. It's purpose is to emphasize the importance of honesty. If people were honest in my group of friends then yes things would change but people would know the truth and we could stop the "he said she said", and the guessing, and all the crap. We could stop ignoring the epic elephants in the room. We could learn to actually love and accept each other for who we are. If we could be honest like we should we would actually be that great loving circle of friends we pretend we are.

this was the song of the day

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9AEoUa0Hlso

whats good.

Recently I've been dealing with and praying about a certain situation in my life. Last night an event happened that was exactly what I wanted out of the situation. So I atomatically thanked God for that event. And then I realized something; if I hadn't gotten what I wanted I would have immediatly been mad at God, or blamed satan for what happened. How awful is that? I only thank and appreciate God when I get what I want. In all honesty I think a lot of people live like that too. We judge what is good depending upon what makes us happy. But who is to say what is good and what is bad. Certainly not us. Most of the incredable stories in the bible have people going through horrible situations. When Jesus was crucified everyone thought it was the most tragic event that ever happened, untill he came back from the dead and saved us from eternal death. I'm learning that even when God causes or allows something bad to happen to me I'm not the one who should judge if it is right or wrong because God has it under control. Whether I get what I want or not I need to thank him for it anyway because I know God is taking care of me. Something bad that happens to me could be the biggest blessing in my life and I just can't see it yet. I think we all should start thanking God just for being God because his presense in our lives is the only thing that really matters in life.

Coffee. It's the new sleep.

I've noticed a new trend; when people are tired they solve the problem with ungodly amount of caffeine. Back in the day (which was a wednesday, by the way) when people were tired they slept. Many places in Europe have a designated time after lunch when people take naps. and that's not just for kindergardeners, high schoolers and even college students get an extended lunch period to go home and nap. Here in America we do not nap because that's lazy, we take five hour energy shots, drink starbucks and caribou, take caffeine pills and then we wonder why we can't sleep at night. Here's a idea, if you don't drink the double-shot-half-caf-no-whip-venti-caramel-twist-lattes at 9 o'clock at night you might not need the ambien to sleep. When did the revolution begin? maybe when starbucks became a part of common vocabulary? or when new york stopped being the only city that doesn't sleep? or maybe when cute coffee mugs become a fashion trend? Lets all stop being trendy and take a trip to italy where we all take naps after eating an immense amount of carbs. I'll book the plane tickets, but only after a stop at starbucks.. I'm tired.

today's phrase: Broken Home

I'm not a fan of this phrase. I was told the other night that I come from a "broken home." When did a divorced family become a broken home anyway? Last time I checked I got two birthdays, two Christmases and two places to call home. Not to mention if my parents were still together I would have probably killed myself by now. They hate each other. So why does society make the word divorce a huge epic deal? So it's a sin. So is greed but CEO's of major corporations are praised for their achievements. And so is gluttony but obese people are pitied for there problem with emotional-eating. So society should give up the phrase "broken home" because divorce is really more a solution than an act of breaking. It solves a dysfunctional family and creates two separate fully functional families. I've learned more from my parents getting divorced than I have think I would have learned from my parents staying together. It comes with it's own challenges but think every lifestyle has it's own challenges and divorced families shouldn't be reprimanded for the way they live. In conclusion the term "broken home" is officially not a part of my vocabulary. And I would like the phrase taken out of societies vocabulary all together because at the current rate we are at 2 out of 3 marriages will end up a "broken home". and that's a lot of brokenness for one world to handle.

Very First Post

This is my very first blog post ever. I'm not really one of the internet savvy twitter, blogger people. But I was reading someones blog today and decided I wanted one too. Maybe I just decided I needed a place to blab about my everyday thoughts. Maybe I've become so conceited that I need a place to say anything I want and not have a single person dispute me. Maybe I want the world to hear what I have to say. Or maybe I secretly don't want anyone to read this ever. Regardless of the reason I started this blog it now exists. It doesn't have much of a purpose other than for me to talk about the random things I want to talk about every once in a while. The impromptu things if you will. I hope you enjoy it, but then again maybe I hope you're not reading it at all.